Other People's Writing

The awful folkways of social media

“It’s in the nature of years to feel exhausting in retrospect. The world is punishing; we have short collective memories and a cognitive bias that makes us recall bad events more vividly than good ones. The awful folkways of social media—which encourage us to call out bad things in dramatic fashion and then pretend that we’ve been helpful—have led to something of an annual conclusion.…

I’m worried that the ‘worst year ever’ feeling is half a condition of the Internet, of the way we experience the news as delivered through social media. Everything feels too intimate, too aggressive; the interfaces that were intended to cheerfully connect us to the world have instead spawned fear and alienation. I’m worried that this sense of relentless emotional bombardment will escalate no matter what’s in the news.…

There is no limit to the amount of misfortune a person can take in via the Internet, and there’s no easy way to properly calibrate it—no guidebook for how to expand your heart to accommodate these simultaneous scales of human experience; no way to train your heart to separate the banal from the profound. Our ability to change things is not increasing at the same rate as our ability to know about them.”

—Jia Tolentino, “The Worst Year Ever, Until Next Year

Randy Newman thought this song “felt sophomoric, too maudlin,” but I think it’s one of his best

Broken windows and empty hallways,
A pale dead moon in a sky streaked with grey.
Human kindness is overflowing,
And I think it's gonna rain today.

Scarecrows dressed in the latest styles,
The frozen smiles to chase love away.
Human kindness is overflowing,
And I think it's gonna rain today.

Lonely, lonely.
Tin can at my feet,
I think I'll kick it down the street.
That's the way to treat a friend.

Bright before me the signs implore me:
Help the needy and show them the way.
Human kindness is overflowing,
And I think it's gonna rain today.

Lonely, so…

A melancholy vanity

“When I rode up in my elevator alone at night after work, wearing the trenchcoat and carrying my book bag, I always became flooded by a melancholy vanity, as if I were being watched through a hidden camera. ‘Here is a young woman living in New York. It’s the end of the day, and she’s going home to her apartment.’ To me, my self-conscious weariness was cinematic and fascinating. It made me feel like an adult. Now I mostly get that feeling when I’m going home in a taxi late at night, but I don’t know whether the feeling is still really mine or whether I ripped it off from ‘My Dinner with André.’”

—Nancy Franklin, ”No Place Like Home,” The New Yorker

Time's undertow

I’m starting a category called “Other People’s Writing” for the purposes of collecting great sentences & beautifully articulated ideas:

“Looking at these pictures, it is impossible not to feel the palpable tug of time’s undertow, the inexorable movement toward we-know-not-what…. Here is photography’s ultimate irony: it can freeze time, but never stop it.”

—Chris Wiley, “Lee Friedlander’s Intimate Portraits of His Wife, Through Sixty Years of Marriage,” The New Yorker